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Kilmarx, Robert D.

Robert Dudley Kilmarx, 94, of Verona, PA, passed away peacefully at Longwood at Oakmont Retirement Community in the presence of his sons on Wednesday, September 21, 2022, after a long and graceful decline with Alzheimer’s Disease. Bob was born May 21, 1928, in New York City to Elizabeth (Harris) and Sumner D. Kilmarx. He attended the Southern Arizona School for Boys and graduated from St. Paul’s School in Concord, NH, and then from Dartmouth College as chairman of the Undergraduate Council and varsity football manager. Bob earned his law degree at Harvard and then served for two years in the 8th Naval District Legal Office in New Orleans. He joined the Boston law firm of Sherburne, Powers & Needham in 1955 and six years later became a partner. In 1965 he settled in Barrington, RI, working with the Industrial National Bank, first as a Vice President and then as Executive Vice President and member of the board of directors. He returned to the law in 1975 and became a founding partner of the firm Davis, Jenckes & Kilmarx. He was a member of the Rhode Island Supreme Court Disciplinary Board and the Environmental Law Committee of the Rhode Island Bar Association. An ardent alumnus of Dartmouth College, he served as a trustee from 1972 to 1982, among other alumni leadership positions, and had instrumental roles in the introduction of co-education at Dartmouth and the rejection of the Indian symbol as the college mascot. Bob was also very active in the civic life of Rhode Island, serving as board director or other leadership role in institutions including Planned Parenthood of Rhode Island, the Rhode Island School of Design, the United Way of Southern New England, Trinity Square Repertory Theater, the Barrington Land Conservation Trust, and the Rhode Island Nature Conservancy. He was also a trustee of the Hurricane Island Outward Bound School in Maine. Bob was a gifted athlete, winning numerous trophies in tennis and sailing, and an avid outdoorsperson. A vintage farmhouse in Lyme, NH, became a second home in 1970 and a center for downhill and cross-country skiing, hiking, maple sugaring, and enjoying large gatherings of family and friends. He was a devoted husband and father, delighting in family outings on his beloved 30’ sloop, Wassail; cross-country RV trips to national parks; and many other adventures in New England and abroad. Bob’s beloved wife of more than 50 years, Mary, died of a stroke in 2002. She was the daughter of Dartmouth’s late Dean Lloyd K. (“Pudge”) Neidlinger, a three-term member of the Rhode Island House of Representatives, Rhode Island Public Utilities Commissioner, and State Director of Energy Policy. Together, Bob and Mary were passionate and powerful champions for fair and open governance and for the environment. Their warmth and graciousness endeared them to a sea of friends and colleagues. They took special interest in those early in their careers, especially women. Bob is survived by his sons and daughters-in-law, John and Beth Kilmarx and Peter and Nichaphat Kilmarx, and his grandsons Nicholas, Harris, Benjamin, Sumner, and Hunter. He was predeceased by his wife and by his daughter, Elizabeth. A memorial event is being planned for a later date. Memorial contributions may be made to any of the following: The Nature Conservancy in Rhode Island (159 Waterman St., Providence, RI 02906); Planned Parenthood of Southern New England (bit.ly/3RXT59n); or the Mary and Elizabeth Kilmarx Endowment of the Upper Valley Land Trust (uvlt.org). Arrangements entrusted to BURKET-TRUBY FUNERAL HOME CREMATION & ALTERNATIVE SERVICES INC.